Rules of Dating for Men - 3 Dating Rules That Make Me Laugh

Somewhere about 10-12 years ago, an underground scene kind of exploded and got some attention from people that normally did not notice it at all. It was the pick up artist scene, and when men started to find this kind of advice available on the web, things changed for a lot of guys. That was a good thing, as a lot of average men got the chance to learn some techniques to pick up and attract women, and they got to learn some dating advice that they would not have normally gotten.

With every good, there has to be a little bad that comes out of it. One of those bad things is that a lot of guys started to parrot this idea that there were rules that men had to follow, rules that were set in stone or else they were going to fail to get women. You know, I always like to point out the fact that you really don’t have to follow a rigid set of rules when it comes to getting women, and the more experience and success that you get, the more you will see this to be true.

Because of these rules, a lot of men end up missing their chances, just because they are trying to play by the book. Problem is, life is not a book, it’s dynamic and always changing, and not every woman is going to respond in the same way or to the same things.

Here are 3 rules that I see men follow like they are set in stone that make me laugh, because a lot of the time… they end up causing more harm than good.

Rule #1- The man always has to end the conversation first.

What this rule springs up from, is that most guys will linger around a woman just a little bit too long. So, they are making a pretty good impression, but they don’t know when to leave or to end things, and that ends up making them seem less valuable or desirable to a woman. In some instances, it can be good to follow this rule. In others, it will prevent you from getting any further with a woman.

One of the things that I have seen when guys try hard to follow this rule by the book, is that they end the conversation just for the sake of being the one to end the conversation. How unnatural is that? If the conversation is going good and the sparks are really flying, it does NOT matter who ends the conversation. A woman is not going to be feeling like she is head over heels for you and then stop, realize that you did not end the conversation first and suddenly feel no attraction to you.

While the principle behind this rule may be solid, as in you don’t want to linger too long, it’s not always the best thing to do to try and be the one to end the conversation first. Like I said, if you do your job of making her want you, it does not matter at all if she ends the conversation or if you do. What matters is the attraction that she feels for you.

Rule # 2- You always have to act as if you have something better to do.

I’ve seen this rule presented in many different forms, and it is based on the premise that you need to show a woman that you are very valuable and that you have a very active life going on. This sounds reasonable on the surface… until you get down to day to day life. See, basically this is another act that you are supposed to put on to make yourself seem like a guy who is always on the go, a guy that will make her life better.

For that reason, it can be a good thing. You definitely don’t want a woman to think that you have no life or that being with you will be boring. Here is the rub, though. There are times when not having anything better to do than to hang out with a woman or spend time with her will work wonders.

Here’s an example of what I mean: You are having a boring Saturday, not much to do. You’ve gotten a number recently from a woman and you want to give her a call. Spending time with her would be more fun than just sitting on the couch, no? So, you call her up and you let her know that you are not going anything and guess what? She says she isn’t either and that gives YOU the perfect opportunity to get up with her to do something.

Had you played up the old, I’ve got something better to do, you would have never gotten that opportunity. Look, most women, even good looking women live just as boring of a life as you do. There is nothing wrong with letting a woman know that you are not doing anything and that you are free to do something with her.

Rule # 3- You have to "peacock" to get attention or to stand out.

This rule sprang up because a guy named Mystery who is regarded to be one of the best pick up artists in the world did this and most guys are followers and copycats, so they did it too. If you don’t already know, peacocking means that you wear something that will intentionally stand out and get lots of attention. Wearing a crazy hat, a necklace that grabs attention, anything that stands out.

Again, this is built on a pretty solid principle that you want to stand out in a crowd and have something that makes you seem unique and it gets conversations started. All very good things. But, it took on a life of it’s own and now you have a new wave of would be pick up artists who think that they have to peacock or else they won’t get girls. So, you see a lot of guys in trendy clubs all wearing things to try and make them standout.

Here’s the rub on this one: If every guy is peacocking, none of them are really standing out or unique, are they? Besides, if you know how to get a woman’s attention without the extra get up, and wearing that extra get up does not fit your personality, why bother?

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Text Messaging Your Way to His Heart

The fastest way to get a man to fall in love with you is to get him to feel an incredible attraction for you that makes him fall in love.

He will not fall in love unless he feels this magic feeling of attraction. He will not feel motivated to want a commitment if he doesn’t feel it.

He may be with you now, but if you want to keep him, you have to know how to make him feel attraction for you that goes really deep.

Your man has a huge ego but he doesn’t want to feel like you’re trying to make him do anything. He wants to feel completely accepted for who he is and he wants to have that magical feeling towards you.

So if you can understand those two basic thing about your guy you will see how much power you have over him to make him fall in love with you.

Because creating intense attraction is like a formula, you will have to respond to him in a way that creates the idea in his mind that you are a high status woman.

When you make him feel free to be himself but you also make him feel as though he’s winning over a high status woman, he’ll do just about anything for you. You just have to focus on the big picture of creating attraction within him instead of trying to make it happen all at once.

When men fall in love, they feel as though the woman they are with out shines all the other women they’ve been with. This is because men want to feel as though they win the best.

Using simple but deadly text messages can trigger those deep feelings of attraction in him where he aches to be with you. It can make him feel as though you are the best thing that has ever happened to him. When you know how to text message your way into his heart, you will place the feeling inside of him that will inspire him to fall in love with you.

If you start painting in his mind how much you appreciate him, then pique his interest with one sentence that will make him think, you will get inside his mind. The key is saying something out of the ordinary that will make him think. When he starts to think about you often, his mind will come to love what it thinks about.

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Being Aware of the Subtlety of Female Flirting

A lot of guys need help in learning the best way to flirt with a girl, because frankly, they are missing a lot of opportunities that are right under their nose.

Guys can be Oblivious to a Girl’s Advances

Imagine that you are standing in line at the supermarket and a nice looking girl is ahead of you. She turns around and asks you some question about an item she is holding in her hand. The conversation keeps going while you stand in line, until she turns around to pay for her groceries, says goodbye and walks away. Most guys would just think of this little conversation as just one more random encounter. What a lot of guys don’t realize is that this girl was actually flirting in her own way. She was trying to tell him she found him interesting and attractive without coming out and saying it. She left the store feeling disappointed because the guy did not pick up on her signals and keep the conversation going longer. Women do these kinds of little interactions all the time but the guys don’t pick up on it. Let us take a closer look at what goes on and hopefully a few people will actually clue in.

Society’s Rules on Relationships

Most people have it drilled into them from early years that in our society it is the man who chases the girl. He is supposed to choose which girl he wants and then he is supposed to approach her and chase her. The girl is supposed to have the job of being passive and waiting and waiting for some guy to take an interest in her. So how does a girl let a man know she finds him attractive? If she is like most women she is going to be very subtle about this. She does not want to seem pushy and she does not want to be shot down. Even the most gorgeous women can be shy about letting a guy know she likes him.

If a girl already likes you, watch out for signs like playful touching and hitting you. She will also do things like giggle and play with her hair. She will start to act much more feminine if she is actually attracted to you.

Picking up on the Signals

An inexperienced guy might notice these flirtatious behaviors, or he might not realize what they mean. You have to start being aware of them and you have to be willing to believe that this is the way most girls will signal you that they like you. It is usually going to be very subtle. Do not worry about how to impress a girl. Why not just assume that she is attracted and go with the flow. If she has touched you playfully, she will probably like it if you touch her playfully.

Men and women have been flirting with each other for thousands of years. If you have been too shy to start flirting, you need to start practicing right now.

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How To Get A Girl’s Attention: 15 Super Tips On Getting Girls Addicted To Chatting With You Online!

I love chatting to girls online. I have talked to many girls from all over the world and the overwhelming majority respond positively to the points I’ve listed below. Online is the perfect place to practice how to get a girl’s attention and it is a fun way of meeting girls that you would possibly might not have had the chance to meet! Technology has given you a huge advantage over your ancestors when it comes to dating, so why not use it to its full potential?

• Your chat name should promote positiveness, be non-sexual and if possible create a bit of mystery. If you can’t come up with something, your first name will work just fine. It is more about how you talk to the girl that will end up being more important than the name. The name just helps build that initial impression on her.
• Women next to never start a private conversation with a guy. When you start a conversation, make sure the opening line is NOT sleazy or sexually suggestive. Most guys (and some girls) only get online to ‘get off!’ So if you come across as one of these guys at the start, she will shoot you down before she even responds. She will ignore you.
• If she has a photo, use that as a starting point. I usually say something like, "That’s a cute picture you have up there. So who is she and is she fun to talk to?" I don’t suggest telling a girl she is beautiful straight out because EVERY other guy is doing the same and you want to be DIFFERENT so she will want to talk to you! Or you will be ignored like every other guy!
• If it is provided, upload a GOOD picture of yourself! Girls are more likely to respond when they can see a friendly, smiling face. It builds trust with her. Make sure it’s a good picture or it can also work against you.
• For sites where you can’t see her picture, open with a general line like, "Hi, are you busy or are you looking for someone fun and entertaining to keep you company for a while?"

Now don’t feel rejected if she doesn’t respond. A lot of girls get FLOODED with messages. Take a look at the room members and notice how the number of guys greatly exceeds the number of girls. To get her attention, you want to stand out. She might also not be at the computer, or she just like to ignore guys advances (yes, some immature girls like to do that). Move on to the next one. There are PLENTY of girls to chat to in the online world.

• Be humorous, but not a goofball! You have to light-heartedly tease her and make sure you use winks and smiles to get the meaning of your message across. It can very easily be misinterpreted what you say online. Try not to ask her the general questions like where she’s from and what she does for work at first. Again, everyone does this and leads to a boring start to the conversation and nine times out of ten will kill the conversation off prematurely.
• Some girls will play hard ball, and this is just their way of testing to see if you’re worth investing the time talking to. Don’t back down by apologising. Ramp it up! She might ask what makes you think your fun to talk to if you use the opening line I gave above. You have to respond with something intelligent and funny like, "well girls on here are actually paying me for my time with them on here because they can’t get enough of me, so I thought I’d give you a free trial period, and if you are able to impress me in that time, I might allow you to start paying me as well!"
• If she doesn’t like your approach, who cares? Move on. She’s not fun and she is going to bore you to tears and more than likely immature and looking for guys who will boost her ego by telling her she’s hot and she’s beautiful etc! Online is a great place to practice all your skills with women, so experiment to see what works and improve your humorous comebacks. Set yourself up a structure that you can use with any woman, but remember that every woman is different, so your structure will have to be adaptable.
• What I do very early on in the conversation is ask a girl what she likes to do. I then take one of her interests and bring it to life. For example, she might say she likes baseball. So I describe in FINE detail about how I go into the next room, get some baseball gear and am now taking her to the park so she can prove to me how good she is. Describe the surroundings and get her imagination involved. Don’t make everything too perfect so it seems more real. Then when you’re playing baseball with her, cheat by telling her things like you’re taking it easy on her because she’s a girl. Be creative and create an experience for her. In her mind (as girls are very creative in their minds eyes) create the whole experience for her! She will love you for it and it will make you more memorable than every other guy in the chat room. It will make it easier for you to take the conversation any direction you want it to go then.
• From here you can progress anyway you like. Take her on an online date to a coffee shop and again just have fun and be creative by making up little scenarios that are happening at the coffee shop. Take her to the zoo. Anywhere you can think of. Don’t ask her where she’d like to go! Lead the WHOLE conversation and mental imagery. It can be quite a bit of typing, but you’ll have her attention a whole lot more than any other guy in there.
• If things start to go sour or she seems to change the direction of the conversation, there are a number of reasons for this. Depending on what you are talking about, it could be the topic brings up bad feelings or memories for her, you are being TOO funny or have stopped impressing her, or she is testing you! With testing, don’t back down. Just keep doing your thing, because she’s testing to see if you’re the real deal! I’ve had girls try to play me really hard telling basically trying to bring me down below their level so they could have some form of control and see if I was the real deal. I could sense they were testing me, and when I held my ground and didn’t budge, they melted and became putty in my hands! Girls love a guy who’s confident and in control of the situations he finds himself in, and doesn’t back down from his position of superior strength!
• If you want to take it further and possibly meet her, don’t chat to her for too long online (as in days). Ask for her email address and don’t ask her out in chat. This makes sure you have a way to contact her again and again. Then in the email after you have sent a few back and forth, get the cell number! Keep the emails brief and not to stretched out. If she doesn’t reply with much, it’s OK. Some girls find it very hard to talk in an email. Try and leave it a day or so before you email your first one to her.
• Remember this! The longer you keep it online, the harder it will be to convert the positive experience in real life, because she has already started to make a mental image of what you are like, and it is NEVER the same in real life. So if you want it to work, get offline and set up a date ASAP! CALL her and ask her out. It takes more guts and she will be more impressed with your courage!
• On the date, remember to have fun and apply the same principles, but now the imagination is real. You now have to carry out fun little things that you would otherwise be typing out in detail. Girls love a guy who’s mysterious and presents a challenge.
• Practice! Besides meeting new girls, your main reason for being online should be to practice and refine your conversational skills with women and test out what does and doesn’t work! Then you will be more confident when applying these to girls in the real world! It’s much easier to be rejected online than in real life, so it’s the perfect playground to PRACTICE and LEARN!

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Dating Tips for Women - Do You Know How to Make Him Want You?

Have you ever had this happen to you? You meet a man, everything seems to be clicking, and you know deep down inside that you want him. You want him as more than a friend, you want him to be the guy you snuggle with at night, the guy you hit the town with on the weekend. You are desperate to find a way to make him want you, but for some reason, your mind is drawing a blank. Why is this happening? You usually have no problems with flirting with a guy and yet, with this guy… it’s just not happening.

If you have ever been in that situation, then you know that it is no fun. It’s not only a little nerve racking, it kind of makes you question whether or not you really know men the way that you think you do. If something like this or something similar to this kind of thing has happened to you and you did not know what to do to make him want you, then that is probably something that you want to get solved immediately.

It’s kind of funny how certain guys can make you feel that way. With some guys, it can be so easy to get him to the point where he is basically ready to eat out of the palm of your hand. Yet, with some guys, it can be almost painful to sit there, trapped inside your mind, trying to think of the right things to do and say to make him feel like he has to be with you.

Here’s a little advice that should help you out in those kinds of situations and make him want you:

When you are feeling that way, part of the ‘problem’ is that you really are attracted to him. Probably more so than most of the men that cross your path each and everyday. So, his opinion becomes really important to you. Maybe even a little too important. Instead of being natural and just being yourself which works pretty well, you end up trying to be a more perfect version of yourself and that ends up making things awkward and way more tense than it should be.

Remember, he’s just a guy and you are just a woman.

As good looking as he might be, as charming as he might be- he is still just a guy. Keep reminding yourself of that inside of your head as you sit there and try to be so perfect to impress him. You probably don’t have to do as much as you think you do. Really, to get a guy to want you, all you have to do is flirt with him in a way that drives him wild and leave him feeling like he has to see you again. Do that and you are going to win him over most of the time.

Another really important aspect of trying to make a man want you, is to give him the impression that he has to chase after you. Make it exciting for him so that he wants to chase you around. So that when he sees you, he can feel his heart racing. That is the state that you want him to be in if he is going to really desire to be with you.

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