How To Successfully Set Up That First Date

Have you mastered the art of meeting the opposite sex? This is only the beginning. Once you have met a girl and you have really "clicked" with her it is time to begin the hard part: going from strangers to lovers.

Don’t expect her to give you much help with this. The guy is the one who is expected to organize the first date, handle the scheduling of the time to meet with her, and guide the whole thing from beginning to end.

Worst of all, a woman will actually be looking for reasons not to date you.

Assuming you do successfully arrange a date, you may find she is not ready to kiss you or does not respond to your suggestions to meet again. Perhaps you will waste your time and money on a date that goes nowhere, but these tips will help.

Arranging the Date

You should always arrange your date over the phone, not by e-mail. Why? Even if you have been regularly e-mailing her up to this point, it can be frustrating to keep e-mailing back and forth in order to arrange a date, with all the suggestions and corrections that go with it.

Another point: when you make the effort to call and talk to her in person, it is more personal and it reassures her that you are truly interested. The extra contact will also make her feel more guilty if she tries to back out of the date, since she agreed to it verbally. It is much easier with e-mails to "forget," or to ignore them in the first place.

If she has a land line, be sure to call her at home rather than on her cell phone. She may take your cell call while she is out and about, and distractions may hinder her in remembering the day that she agreed to. She may not even have anything with her on which to write down the details.

Just because you do not arrange a date by e-mail that does not mean e-mail is out of the picture. If you have her e-mail address, you should send a follow-up message after the date letting her know that you are looking forward to seeing her at the agreed-upon time and place. This way, if any of the details are wrong, she will alert you to them.

Think things out before you call her. Suggest a certain time, day and place. This shows you have given some thought to the matter, and women love well planned out dates. it also shows you are decisive.

Too many men make the mistake of acting as if the woman is doing them a favor by accepting the date. They ask where they should meet and accept whatever she says. Avoid this.

Once you start dating, there will be much more give-and-take. For now, make the decision yourself (you will most likely be paying for it, after all).

Choose a time and place at which you will be most comfortable. The more familiar you are with the venue at which you go, the more confident you will appear.

A first date should take place in your territory, not hers. It should be at your favorite restaurant or bar. This will give you the advantage.

Keep in mind that she may not be able to accommodate the first day and time you propose. Issue your invitation several days in advance as women often do not like spur of the moment things. You do not know how busy her social calendar is, as you may need to fit your date in. She may even act as if she is very busy, just to give you the impression that she is a "hot commodity."

As important as proposing a date several days in advance is when you time your call. So that you don’t become a "cold prospect" you should call to arrange a first aid know more than a week after you first meet her.

Keep in mind that the date and time you propose will signal your intentions. If you suggest meeting for drinks after work, it suggests that you want to start out cautiously and determine your level of rapport with each other before making a greater commitment. If you suggest dinner on a Friday or Saturday night, it implies that the evening may carry on into drinking, dancing and possibly even intimate relations.

On the other hand, if you arrange the date for Saturday or Sunday, it shows her that you are interested enough in her to want to spend a whole day in her company, and the date will be much more relaxed and activity focused.

Being In Love With A Cancer Man - How To Make An Extra-Emotional Man Love You Forever

Are you dating a man born between June 22 and July 21? Congratulations — you’ve found yourself a Cancer man! Cancerians, according to astrology, are among the most loving and emotional lovers you could ever find in the dating game. You’ll need a different approach if you want to get on his good side!

Cancer men are often much more emotional than others, so they can be quite sensitive. Here are some things to keep in mind as you go along with dating him:

• He takes commitment very seriously. So if he truly loves you, it doesn’t take much to keep him.
• He is deep and moody, which can cause problems if you also have a tendency to be emotional.
• Don’t hurt him unnecessarily. Cancer men respond well to constructive criticism and "tough love," but unnecessary pain can make him retreat into his shell.
• He doesn’t forget easily. That means a little goes a long way with him — whether you’re a "little good" or a "little bad" with him.
• He is romantic, which means a committed relationship with him will be a happy one.
• He has an ego. My advice: Praise and compliment a Cancer man at least four times more than you criticize him. It’s not only good for him, but it’s also good for your relationship!
• Cancer men are among the most loyal you can find in the dating game, so make sure you don’t betray that trust. One slip may be all it takes to lose him forever.
• He makes a great father. Children bring out the kid in him, so prepare for a lighter parenting style than usual if you decide to raise a family with him.
• Sense of humor. His sense of humor can sometimes be dark at times. If you can, don’t criticize his sense of humor — simply ignoring it can be enough to make it go away.

But of course, don’t forget the more "general" dating advice, either. You can check the zodiac charts to see just how compatible you are with a Cancer man, but ultimately the end goal is the same with ANY sign — and that’s to have a wonderful, happy, long-lasting relationship.

Much of being happy in a relationship is all about knowing how relationships work, knowing how his mind works, and knowing how to act, think, and feel when times get challenging. And that’s something I can help you with…

Dating Online - The Next Step

It is a fact now that a great many of us meet and make friends online. The online dating scene is very vibrant and there are numerous online dating agencies to cater for this market and of course lots of dating advice free online to make it very easy and simple.

Some of us however just meet in chat rooms or forums where we hang out because we have an interest in the main theme of the room. In this situation we will of course meet like-minded individuals with similar interests.

Well we think we have a lot in common as we are in the sci-fi chat room, but perhaps this is all we have in common, so really we are just forum buddies.

As time goes on and we find that we are chatting about more general things then perhaps we start to develop an online relationship rather than just an interest in the chat room theme we start to develop an interest in each other.

There is nothing new in this, it is how we all start to build a relationship by getting to know each other. There are lots of singles dating online however we are not dating just building a friendship. No doubt we will start to want to move the relationship on to a face to face meeting and we must be patient about this and make sure it is the right thing to do.

It may be best if we build the relationship online, not via dating sites, but social network sites. If we Facebook each other, then we will get to see if the persona we see in the chat room is the same, also we will get to see some pictures with a bit of luck. Building up slowly like this will help avoid any nasty surprises and we can move on to exchanging messages and then we may move on to live phone calls which will allow more spontaneity and to hear how we sound.

Now we really have a picture of who we think we are building a relationship with and we may even start to wonder if this is our soul mate if we have found the one. At this time we should arrange that all important meet, still we need to be sure and the best way to take this forward is in public place or with friends in a small group.

It will be very difficult if they are great distance between each person but none the less the principles of slow and easy still apply. The opportunity nay arises to attend a function relevant to your chat room and this would present a public opportunity and one where other friends can also attend.

The nest steps must always be slow and easy, dating direct is the last thing and only after we have applied the above points, most dating sites will advise the same public meeting and they make their money from dating online.

How to Date Gorgeous Ukrainian Ladies While Avoiding Online Cons

A lot of men dream of finding a marriage partner from Russia or the Ukraine, but become the victims of con artists. Research shows that up to 80% of the profiles submitted on free dating services by charming Ukrainian women turn out to be false or partially false. There are those who pretend to be interested in a relationship but really have the goal of swindling you out of your money.

Not everyone is a con artist, of course. Many women are sincere, but still do not provide accurate information about themselves. They may fib about their age, goals or even marital status. They may upload photos that are so old or so drastically altered that you would never even recognize them in real life.

There are steps you can take to protect yourself:

1. Have a healthy suspicion of the large online dating sites. When a woman fills in an online form, you have no guarantee that she did it accurately. If you see a profile for a Ukrainian lady that seems too perfect, and which describes her as well educated, a great cook, well-off, with a great body etc. this could be an indication that there is a scammer involved. The old adage "too good to be true" applies here.

2. Look for an agency at whose office Ukrainian women sign up in person. This way, you will have a far greater assurance that the Russian and Ukrainian women listed in the agency’s catalog are legitimate, are sincere about wanting marriage, and have recent pictures.

Trustworthy agencies will not ask you for payment before you are at least able to find out about your selected Ukrainian partners and get a good impression of them.

A reputable agency will not only make an arrangement for your meeting with an eligible Ukrainian woman, but will help you create a long-term relationship with your new fiancé.

The fact that all brides in a catalog are from one town is a good sign. It means that the agency does not accept womens’ profiles sent by internet. This way you have a guarantee that you will find a REAL lady who is sincerely motivated to find the man of her dreams.

Look for an agency that offers romantic tours to Kharkiv, Ukraine, clients sincerely seeking marriage, online web chats, antispam protection, visa documents, and most importantly, a written guarantee. This is the best assurance of satisfaction.

Are You Nervous Around Women?

Some people think that a woman’s sense of smell is so powerful that she can actually scent fear. I mean literally.

This is not true, of course. Women can’t literally smell fear, but they do have many other ways in which they can tell if a man is nervous - by his eye contact, his mannerisms, or that slight waver in his voice.

Let’s face it, most women are not looking for a nervous Nellie. In fact, most women would rather be stuck alone in a desert than to try to coddle some basket case.

How to get around this? Bluff!

Don’t try to bluff your way into making her think you’re some kind of Don Juan, just act more self-confident and you will tend to feel that way. Give me a guy with just enough self-confidence to at least carry on a nice conversation and I am golden.

I don’t automatically discount the guy who is a little tongue-tied or who takes a little time to work up the nerve to approach me from the other side of the room. In fact I think it’s kind of cute. What’s not cute as if he is still sitting in the corner an hour later. Or if he does manage to make it across the room and his efforts to spit out his first and last names are a test of patience.

So what is a nervous guy to do? Just take some advice on how to manage your approach from your friendly neighborhood busty blonde (that’s me!).

Oh, and as for something that doesn’t work in this situation…you know that advice they give to public speakers to deal with nervousness by picturing the audience in their underwear? Believe me, that would not work on a drop-dead gorgeous woman. If you thought you were stuttering already, try picturing that hot blonde in her lacy intimate wear and you might as well check out right now, bub.

So take a deep breath and slowly let it out. Square up your shoulders and suck in your gut. Remember that the first part of feeling confident is acting confident.

If you’re not a born comic, then don’t try to use lame jokes to break the ice. How do you know? If your opening line has made the last three women you approached groan, that might give you a good idea!

So what is a good opening line? How about "Hi, my name is John, it’s good to meet you."

A handshake is not always expected, but if it is, such as when you’re introduced at a party, here’s some free advice (I hope I’m not kicked out of the Women’s Secret Union for telling you this): Neither hold her hand as if it is brittle or try to show off your machoness with a bone crushing show of strength. Taking her hand gently, but not like a cold fish, is fine. An even more intimate way is by taking her hand in both of yours, while looking her in the eye and giving her a sincere, friendly smile at the same time.

So what about your nervousness? Just remember that women are nervous around you also. Just get over that first awkward feeling and you’ll be good to go. You’ll never know what beautiful music the two of you could have made together if you watch her walk away with the guy who had a backbone.

Remember, bluff it, and you just may be the one who gets to go home with her tonight, you lucky devil!

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