7 Keys To A Successful First Date
Here’s something I noticed…
We spend a lot of time talking about how to attract women… and very little time talking about what to do when you get one.
I guess that makes SOME sense. No use putting the cart before the horse, so to speak.
But still… sometimes I think guys sometimes score that first date with a woman they’re really into and then find themselves at a loss about what to do next…
If you’ve ever found yourself in that spot, here’s a quick checklist to help you make sure that date goes smoothly.
1) Have a plan:
Nothing makes you look like a bigger weenie than floundering about trying to find something interesting to do on your first date. Know what you’re doing, where you’re going and when. And if you’re going out on a date on a weekend, be sure to make reservations.
2) Communicate your plan:
Girls like surprises, but not so much on a first date. Why? Because they’re already nervous about making a good impression.
If you don’t tell your date where you’re going, she won’t know how to dress appropriately for the evening out — and believe me, that’s a BIG deal for women. The more you can keep a woman comfortable and non-stressed, the better time you’ll both have together.
3) Don’t show up early:
Showing up early on your first date makes you look look insecure and needy. It’s also rude. Women need time to prepare. Arriving 20 minutes early is likely to throw your date’s routine into chaos.
4) Don’t be late:
Okay, this is a little misleading. My suggested first date arrival time is about 5-10 minutes late. This builds just enough anticipation to keep your date excited about seeing you without making you appear rude. It’s also completely justified if you’re driving to a location you’ve never been to before.
Being any later than this to pick up your date puts you in a really bad light. It implies that you’re unthoughtful, untrustworthy, disorganized, and don’t have your act together.
If you know you’re going to be more than 10 minutes late, text or call and let your date know.
5) Get to know roommates or family members:
Never, ever whisk your date away without spending a little bit of time talking to whomever she lives with. Friends and family members have a huge influence on your date’s ultimate opinion of you, so be sure to get off on the right foot. If your date goes well, you might be seeing a lot more of these people.
6) Don’t drink too much:
A little alcohol is cool–it loosens everyone up and calms the nerves. But keep it to 2-3 drinks, max. Beyond this, you’re likely to do and say things you’ll regret. An interesting thing about alcohol is that it tends to highlight insecurities rather than hide them when it’s used in quantity, so be particularly wary in using booze to overcompensate for a lack of confidence. If you get drunk, it’ll have the opposite effect.
7) Be positive:
No matter what happens on your date, keep a positive attitude. All kinds of unexpected things can happen on a first date–your car could break down, you might get stuck in traffic, the weather could turn bad, etc…
The more cheerfully and gracefully you handle these situations, the better you’ll come off. Sometimes the best dates happen when two people make the best of a bad situation.
Being positive applies to your conversations as well. Keep it light and don’t spend time griping about work or rehashing bad relationships you’ve been involved with. You shouldn’t be afraid to be yourself on a date– just don’t be too eager to reveal the good, bad and ugly out of some misplaced sense of honesty or "being real."
Instead, focus on getting to know your date and having a good time. Women will forgive a few flaws if you seem like a generally decent guy who’s fun and interesting.
Good luck and happy dating!
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