The "No Contact Rule" - Does It Really Save Relationships? Here’s How To Get Your Boyfriend Back
If you and your boyfriend have decided to take a break, have you thought about making a no contact rule? Do you know why people say that a rule like that can really help a troubled relationship? Are you afraid that if you don’t see or talk to each other while you’re apart that it may completely destroy your relationship? When a relationship starts to take a turn for the worse, it’s make or break time. If you and your boyfriend want to make it together, you may need to take a break from each other for a little while. That’s where the no contact rule can come in handy.
No Contact Rule - A Scary Idea
When you love each other but can’t seem to live with each other, it’s what could be called desperate times. And you know what they say about that - desperate times means taking desperate measures. And maybe that’s what the no contact rule could be called. It’s hard to agree to break off all contact with the person you love. It’s a scary thing to agree to for both of you, but it just may save your relationship.
If you’re constantly at each other about things, eventually one of you is going to cross that invisible point of no return. Before that happens, it’s best to take a step back and some time apart and use that other old saying to your advantage - absence makes the heart grow finder.
Why The No Contact Rule Works
If you’re not together disagreeing and arguing, it leaves lots of time for the hurt you have inflicted on each other to heal. Instead of thinking about the awful things you said or he said, the bad memories start to fade and the good memories come forward in your mind and take over.
If you agree to this rule, you need to realize that there’s no formal cheating allowed. You’re agreeing not to call, send a text, write a letter, or email the other person. It also means that you don’t accidentally on purpose bump into him during this time.
How To "Bend" The No Contact Rule
But it is okay to ask about him through a mutual friend and let that same friend pass along a little "she misses you and is thinking about you" message to him. But before you do agree to take some time apart, agree to get together to talk in a few weeks or a month. It’s better for the rule to have an end date.
What do you do while you’re in no contact limbo? Well, it would be a great use of this time if you both decide to think about your relationship, both the good parts and the bad and try to come up with some ways to make it better in the future.
The no contact rule can help put a troubled relationship back together. Want to know more effective ways to get your boyfriend back? Then I’d love to help you!